Ronke grew up in a small community in Kaduna. She was the first daughter of five responsible children, dutiful, and expected to lead by example. She learned early to push her feelings aside and show strength. “You’re a girl. You must endure,” her mother would often say.

By 25, Ronke had ticked off every box society handed her:
 ✅ A degree
 ✅ A decent job in Abuja
 ✅ A fiancé her parents approved of

Yet, in the quiet of her one-bedroom flat, surrounded by all the things she had worked for, she felt lost.

“God, I’m doing everything right… so why does it feel like something is missing?”

She tried to ignore the ache. Pushed herself harder. Volunteered more at church. But the emptiness lingered—until one night she broke down in prayer and whispered the same thing many women have whispered through tears:

“Who am I really, and what did You create me for?”

That was her moment of awakening. The beginning of a journey not just toward success, but toward purpose.

This story is real. Maybe it’s your story too. You’ve been surviving, maybe even excelling—but deep down, you know you were created for more.

You Were Never Meant to Merely Exist

Let’s be honest—many women are living out society’s script instead of God’s assignment.
 We wear the right clothes, say the right things, follow the cultural rules…
 But behind the masks are women longing for more—more meaning, more impact, more alignment with the woman God originally designed.

Here’s the truth:

You weren’t just created to be a wife, mother, employee, or leader. You were created to reflect God’s glory and carry His purpose into the earth.

Let’s walk through the biblical, practical steps to becoming the woman God ordained you to be—not by human standards, but Heaven’s definition.

Step 1: Return to the Source (God)

Before we can walk in purpose, we must first reconnect with the One who created us.
 You are not a random mix of gifts and experiences. You are intentionally formed—hand-crafted by a God who knew your name before your parents did.

📖 Jeremiah 1:5 – “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were born, I set you apart; I appointed you...”

Practical Action:

• Block time every day to pray, journal, and read the Word—not to be religious, but to rebuild intimacy.

• Ask God directly: “What did You create me to do in this season?"

• Pay attention to patterns, stirrings, and scriptures that repeat—that’s often how purpose speaks.

Step 2: Heal the Parts Holding You Back

Many women can’t step into destiny because they’re still carrying yesterday’s pain.
 That trauma? Those words spoken over you? The shame you’ve buried?
 They’re shaping how you see yourself today—and they quietly block your boldness.

📖 Isaiah 43:18-19 – “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!”

Practical Action:

• Write a letter to your past self—release every lie, every wound, every "I’m not enough" moment. Then surrender it to God.

• Replace the lie with truth: “I am God’s masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10). I am healed. I am whole.”

• Seek healing through therapy, mentorship, and Scripture. God uses all tools to bring wholeness.

Step 3: Discover Your Divine Design

Purpose is not created, it is discovered.

God has already placed the blueprint inside of you. It’s woven into your personality, your gifts, your pain, your passions.

📖 Romans 12:6 – “We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.”

Practical Action:

• Make a purpose map:

• What comes naturally to you?
• What do people always ask you for?
• What problems burden your heart deeply?

• Take personality and spiritual gift tests—but submit them to prayer.

• Begin serving purpose is often revealed in motion.

Step 4: Take Imperfect but Intentional Steps

You don’t need to have the full picture to begin. God often reveals the next step, not the full staircase.
 Faith is walking even when you don’t have all the details.

📖 Hebrews 11:8 – “By faith Abraham, when called… obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.”

Practical Action:

• Start that blog. Apply for that job. Volunteer. Launch the idea. Speak up.

• Track your steps of obedience and celebrate small wins.

• Don’t be afraid of failure—every step grows your faith and builds your capacity.

Step 5: Stay Rooted in the Right Environment

Every purpose needs the right soil to grow. If you're surrounded by voices of fear, comparison, or negativity, your confidence will shrink.

But when you’re planted in God’s presence and purpose-driven community, you’ll flourish. You need a space that speaks life, builds faith, and nurtures growth.

📖 Psalm 1:3 – “She is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither...”

When you’re connected with other women who speak life, encourage your walk with God, and remind you of who you are in Christ, it strengthens your ability to stay grounded—even when life feels overwhelming.

Practical Action:

• Surround yourself with women who are on a similar journey of becoming.

• Set boundaries around negativity, comparison, and distractions.

• Cultivate spiritual disciplines like fasting, worship, and rest. Purpose grows best in presence.

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Step 6: Lead with Eternity in Mind

Your purpose is not just about platform—it’s about people.
 It’s not just about success—it’s about souls.
 When you understand that you are part of God’s redemptive plan, you stop chasing applause and start living for impact.

📖 Colossians 3:23-24 – “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord...”

 Practical Action:

• Ask: “Lord, how does this decision reflect Your will?”

• Measure success not by likes or followers, but by lives touched, hearts healed, truth released.

• Surrender daily—“Not my will, Lord, but Yours.”

Now Is the Time to Rise

Ronke eventually left her “safe” life behind—not to be reckless, but to be obedient.
 Today, she mentors young girls across northern Nigeria, helping them break generational cycles through faith and education. She’s not famous. She’s not perfect. But she is faithful.

That’s what becoming the woman God ordained you to be is all about—faithfulness, boldness, and obedience to the One who formed you.

Which step spoke to you the most today? Have you started this journey—or are you still waiting to begin? Drop your thoughts below—I’d love to hear from you.

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FAQs on Becoming the Woman God Ordained You to Be

1. Can I still find purpose if I’ve made mistakes?
 Absolutely. Moses was a murderer. Rahab was a prostitute. Paul persecuted Christians. Yet all became powerful vessels in God’s hand. Your past doesn’t cancel your calling—it prepares you for it.

2. How do I know this is truly God’s purpose and not just my idea?
 God’s purpose aligns with His Word, glorifies Him, and bears fruit in due season (John 15:5). It also brings deep, unexplainable peace.

3. What if I’m afraid to take the next step?
 Courage isn’t the absence of fear—it’s obedience in spite of it. Start small. God rewards faith, not perfection.

4. Do I need to be in ministry to fulfill my purpose?
 Not at all. Purpose shows up in every area: business, education, creativity, motherhood, social impact. Your calling is wherever God plants you.